It's OK Not to Feel OK

We can all have off days where we feel like we wished the ground would just swallow us up. However, we do not want to stay in this energy too long.   Some people find it easier than others to snap out of more darker times in their lives.    Judgements from well meaning people telling us to snap out of it are not helpful and, at times can add another layer of anxiety or shame. 

To me learning coping skills to help us through more tougher times is a great way to become more resilient and capable of bouncing back to what we feel is a better place for us.

Today is World Mental Health Day, a day which is definied by the World Health Organisation as "....focusing on improving understanding of depression, and knowledge of what help is available for prevention and treatment. The ultimate goal of the campaign is that more people with depression, in all countries, seek and get help".

So often we feel obliged to conform to what society says we should be like; girls should be this way, boys another way.   But as individuals we are not made the same way, we have different responses based on our own individual story. 

I set up as a portal where children could go to find information on the way they are feeling.   As children and as adults at times also, we are not in a position to put language to the way we feel.    This can cause another layer of stress for us if we feel we cannot ask for help because we do not understand what is going on ourselves!  It can leave us feeling vulnerable.

The intention of the Emotion Tree on the website is to help children verbalise what they are feeling inside.   I always say "When we are aware we can change, they we can".  When we stuff down our feelings and emotions they become stuck and, will remain that way until we go back in and release them.

Stuck emotions can cause a manifestation of many physical symptoms like stress, anxiety or even depression.   When we cannot verbalise our feelings and emotions we may feel no one understands us, as we cannot even understand ourselves and we may start to feel disconnected from the world.     This can lead to isolation.

My aim with is to empower children about the way they feel and to give them tools to help them release feelings and emotions that are perceived to have a "negative" effect on them.   Although emotions to me are not negative, they are our body's way of telling us what we need to know in any given situation.   When we learn what the emotions can do for us we can learn ways to use our emotions to help empower rather than disempower us.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a great tool for children and adults to get the energy behind emotions moving and avoid them becoming lodged in our energy body.   Children can learn EFT free at my site here. 

My advice is always ask for help and although that can seem daunting at times there is always at least one person whom we can feel we can talk to.  Dig deep and let's build safe communities.

Dolores Andrew-Gavin, Author, Energy Therapist and Owner at IrishHealthHour